Virtual Marriage

One of the points defenders of traditional marriage make is that marriage is, first and foremost, about creating and raising children.  It’s not, despite what many proponents of gay marriage contend, about an expression of love.  You don’t need marriage for that.  While obviously you don’t need marriage to create or raise children, your chances of successfully raising children are increased dramatically when parents are married.

What if gay marriage were legalized?  We know that the left is never happy.  They always need something to rage against and change.  What other marriage battles might they engage in?  Here’s a question.  If marriage has been redefined to be about romantic love and the self-fulfillment of adults, severed from the expectation of childrearing, why would marriage be limited by physical proximity?

If you are of a certain age range, you may know someone who moved to another part of the country (or globe) and married someone because of a relationship that started online.  This happened even before “social networking sites” entered the lexicon.  The tools for creating personal relationships online are more powerful than ever now.

If a legally authorized officiant were to agree to it, what if two people who have an entirely virtual relationship want to get married but won’t or can’t relocate to be with each other?  What if they have no intention or ability to ever meet in person, even temporarily?  Is that marriage?

Seem crazy or impossible?  What if the both had medical conditions that made travelling or relocating too difficult?  Or what if one person lived in an authoritarian country that made emigration nearly impossible?  Or what if marriage would give people with a virtual relationship a tangible benefit (health insurance, for example) but it was just too inconvenient or unromantic to actually take the relationship offline and into the real world?  Do you think leftwing lawyers wouldn’t try to push the envelope here?

But take it one step further.  If marriage is solely about the married couple, with children and physical proximity removed from the picture, can a virtual wedding become an instant transaction, like buying something from iTunes?  Could divorces become instant too?  If they are instant, is there even a pretense that marriages should be permanent?  Could spouses be added and dropped like a digital subscription?

What if the online ethos was adopted offline and spouses who did live together were added and dropped at will?  Is that crazy?  Is that marriage?


Every now and then I wonder if I over think things a bit.  For example, I was working on this post and started to wonder if it was a little too speculative.  Then I came across this.  It turns out, I’m not so crazy.

It’s tough sometimes to write about these things without sounding like a paranoid lunatic.  Is the left deliberately trying to undercut our society?  That’s a tough call but at a minimum they are guilty of dangerously sloppy and self-indulgent thinking.  They seem oblivious to the possibility that their policies ideas might have a destabilizing effect on our families and culture.   It isn’t even clear to me that they understand that would be a bad thing.

Whether it’s deliberate or not, it is certainly dangerous and destructive.

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